As a native New Yorker wired for urgency and built to slither speedily through the NYC subway system, I’ve had to learn to slow down. To…

🐢 Pause and breathe before reacting
🐢 Reflect and introspect before making big decisions
🐢 Accept the pace of things beyond my control
🐢 Embrace unstructured downtime and play
🐢 Take a freakin’ chill pill, bro!

But sometimes, you need to speed up. And guess what? You may be the only thing standing in your way.

Or as one wonderfully self-aware member of my community put it, “I’m kind of sick of my own BS, if we’re being honest…”

Career changers often—unintentionally—slow themselves down because they’re out of their comfort zone or feel overwhelmed.

If this resonates, be kind to yourself. These slow-down behaviors are totally normal and usually stem from a desire to feel safe and worthy. Self-compassion is the first step to moving forward.

Now, let’s dive into the top 5 behaviors that sabotage career-change progress, so you can make a shift:

🛑 You research and talk endlessly about your career change: “Maybe this!” “What about that?” But when it comes to committing to a direction to try, that’s where resistance creeps in.

🛑 You over-organize to feel in control: You’re spending more time wordsmithing your resume and formatting spreadsheets of contacts than actually reaching out and connecting.

🛑 You’re making it too existential: “Do I love helping people, or am I just a people-pleaser?” “Is this a skill or trauma response?” Sometimes, you just like things and are good at them… time to move on!

🛑 You put too much pressure on it: Treating your career like a heavy, immovable pillar of your life limits creativity and makes it harder to explore new possibilities.

🛑 You mistake action for progress: The dopamine hit of applying to dozens of jobs may feel productive, but real momentum comes from intentional, high-impact strategies.

If you’re struggling with these behaviors, the Career Change Collective is here to help you get unstuck, build momentum, and achieve your career goals 🐇

Reply to this email for more info or book a chat to see if it’s the right fit!

Onward!
Grace

P.S. Feeling stuck in decision paralysis? Wondering whether to stay, pivot, or completely change directions in your career? Join me and Tech Ladies tomorrow, Wednesday 2/5 at 1pm ET / 10am PT for Should I Stay or Should I Go? and gain the clarity and confidence to move forward.

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